From the life coach behind the popular Instagram account @thepeopledispleaser, fresh, spiky advice for how to stop being an emotional landfill and start living for yourself

After years of saying yes when he meant no, twisting himself into knots for others’ approval, and apologizing for nothing, Nick Pollard realized that his addiction to people pleasing had torched his relationships and turned him into a miserable, resentful liar. Worst of all, it made him afraid to change. What if no one liked the new Nick?

I Hope You Hate This contains all the hard-won advice you need to become a real person – not a passive schmuck with a talent for walking on eggshells. Crackling with Pollard’s stranger-than-fiction stories and self-deprecating humor, this book will challenge you to separate your own emotions from the emotions of others, to stop victimizing yourself for your own mistakes, to break the habit of telling "harmless" white lies for social approval, and to practice "controlled demolition" of your life that leads to big positive changes without burning everything to the ground.

This book won’t give you the language to brag about your “healing journey” on Instagram, nor will it sugar coat the difficult work of growth. But it will give you the tools to create the freedom, happiness, and fulfillment you deserve. You will hate this. But it will help.